THERE IS NO "ONE SIZE FITS ALL" FOUNDATION FOR MARRIAGE

Dear Beloveds,

Just as your love is like no other, your marriage will be like no other. We talk about marriage as if it means the same for everyone. However, the elements that make for a strong marital foundation come down to the shared vision and values that are unique to each couple. When working with a Bride & Groom (or G+G, B+B!) To Be on their ceremony, I always ask for them to create their very own Foundation of Marriage Statement.

Here are the questions I provide for each couple to help them for design their statement: 

• What is important about your relationship to you?
• What makes it work more than anything else?
• Naming 3-5 key qualities, like communication or laughter, that have helped bring you both this far in your love story.
• Feel free to tie your statement to a metaphor (or not) - something that anchors your statement for you. 
• What qualities do the two of you practice to make sure you get and stay on the same page? Communication? Tenderness? Listening? Laughing at yourselves and each other? Affection? Etc.
• ​What makes your love work?

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